Stop wishing you were living someone else’s life. Stop looking over at the grass that you think is greener on their side. When we compare or often dream about being somewhere else and doing something else, we think we are being productive. Sometimes we even think we are inspired. But what really are you doing?
You aren’t living in the present. You aren’t being grateful for where you are now. Who you are with now.
Now don’t get me wrong, I think we can be inspired by others lives and their successes. But instead of envying their lives (which typically leads to paralyzation thinking we could never do that) and just drooling over their circumstances.
Let’s try this exercise. Instead of putting “Successful Suzy” on a pedestal
Ask yourself these questions.
- What about Suzy’s life I you admire?
- What about her circumstance is attractive?
- What is my heart really saying when I want to be like her?
Honestly, I think we can become paralyzed by wanting what others have. We want more money, a bigger car, to be our own boss. Sometime those things are out of reach at this moment, so we just give up. Think we are not good enough.
I challenge you to get deeper with this. Why do you want more money? What is your heart really asking for? Reasons could be to have less stress. To be able to give more. To be able to feel secure. Now these are things that you CAN do something about, right NOW.
Take steps towards less stress in other areas, maybe look at your budget and see if you can give or donate your time. These are just a couple of examples.
You want to be your own boss so that you can be creative. Be creative right now in your current circumstances, don’t wait. Yes you might not have a 100 hours a week to work on creativity, but isn’t 1 hour after work better than none.
Take it one step further and get to the core of where your yearning is coming from, it might just surprise you.